Resilience is the new happiness Even professional acrobats fall. The trick is picking yourself up. Inspired by the positive psychology movement, corporations hold positions for “chief fun officers” and esteemed institutions like Stanford and Yale offer classes on happiness. But this infatuation with good times is only creating confusion about what it means to succe
Do you ever wonder why you are so exhausted raising your kids when their other parent is a narcissist?
It’s because, in all practicality, you’re a single parent. Not only that, if you are still married to the narcissist, he or she is the biggest and most difficult of all your kids. He/she causes you a high level of stress most of the time.
If you are trying to co-parent with a narcissist you might as well give up right now. Repeat after me, “I am the only parent.” Or, “He/she is not a parent.” While the narcissist is the biological mom or dad, he/she is not interested in, nor capable of properly raising another human being.
“Why is it there are so many unmarried women in their thirties these days, Bridget?” – the dinner party scene in Bridget Jones’s Diary is excruciatingly familiar to anyone who has ever found themselves, alone, surrounded by a room full of married friends.While psychologists may not have fully resolved the question of whether marriage makes people self-satisfied like Bridget’s paired-up friends, or if instead smug people are just more likely to get married, research suggests the experience of committing to and settling down with another person really does change our personalities for better and for worse… until death do us part.It makes sense that it might – after all, publicly binding yourself to another person takes loyalty and forward thinking, not to mention a radical change of lifestyle for some, and of course living day in, day out with the same person requires a certain degree of patience and diplomacy.
If you’ve ever logged in to Facebook and managed to scroll and post for more than a few hours, you’ve probably asked yourself this question: Why? It turns out the answer is simple: It makes you feel good, according to a Michigan State University assistant professor – though that’s not necessarily a good thing.Allison Eden, of the university’s Department of Communication, collaborated with researchers from Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam and Radboud University Nijmegen, The Netherlands, on two studies surrounding frequent and less frequent users of the platform. The journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking published the research earlier this year.For frequent social media users, just looking quickly at a Facebook-related image – i.e. a logo or screenshot – could lead to a pleasurable reaction and cause social media cravings. Eden says this is most likely due to Facebook becoming a learned response, not unlike dogs figuring out that going to the bathroom outside means a treat.The first study had participants look at a Facebook-related prompt or control picture and then a Chinese symbol. People then had to determine if that symbol was unpleasant or pleasant. More frequent Facebook users saw the Chinese symbol as pleasant more so than those who used Facebook less. For the second study, participants answered a survey to assess their Facebook cravings.